Patterns to Success

Stages that make up the pattern of success, namely:

Positive Self Confidence
Everything starts from here. This is your self-image. Self image. It deals with how you believe in yourself? Are you human beings are born to succeed or to fail? You good people or bad people? You are handsome / beautiful or ugly? You deserve to be rich or poor deserve? You feel as lower class, middle class or upper class? When dealing with others, you feel yourself at the top, parallel or on top of it? Also associated with you feel yourself a good follower or a great leader? Feel I have all the talent and potential that is needed or not?

Well, success begins from positive self-belief. Are you sure you were born to succeed. You good people. You are handsome / beautiful. You deserve to be rich and upper class people. You believe in yourself dealing with others. No inferiority. Not too overbearing. You deserve a great leader. You are convinced you are awarded once a sufficient talent and potential to achieve success you want.

Why is this important? Because the only person who believed himself worthy of success that will succeed it. Right?

Conduct requirement.
The second step is to conduct mandatory. From having a basic and simple to perform difficult and complex necessity. Necessity - the simplest ones - usually unpleasant. But it is very good when done.
This requirement is such as immunization. Infants should be immunized. This is a must. It hurts, but it strengthens. Sad to see it, but must do so. Greater risk to be borne when the necessity is not done.

Everyone should wake up early. Everyone should be exercising. Everyone should eat healthy and nutritious food. Everyone should be able to take care of himself. Everyone should be able to think. Everyone should be able to solve the problem. Everyone must continue to learn. That's some fundamental necessity.

If you are an employee, you must be disciplined. Obey the rules. No matter how the rules it makes you upset. If you are a businessman, you must have more value. No matter how difficult it has more value it. If you are an athlete, you have to practice hard. Although it is exhausting.

Well, can you achieve success if you can not perform your obligation? No! 100% can not be successful.

Positive Habit Forming.
The third step is the second step that is absolutely clear, continue to be repeated consistently. Everyone must get up early. Then in the morning could mean four, five, six, seven, eight or even nine. When you wake up at four o'clock on Monday, at seven o'clock on Tuesday, at five o'clock on a Wednesday, at eight o'clock on Thursday, then you just do the necessary. The requirement you have not become a habit. When you consistently - every day - up at four, that's a habit. A positive habit must be absolutely clear.

When he saw the accident, you swiftly to help. You do your requirement. But this does not happen every day, right? So this is not a habit. Turning off unused lights are a necessity. Always turn off lights not in use is a habit. Well, necessity and habit are distinguished by one word: always. One word that really crucial.

Positive beliefs, Doing necessity and Forming positive habits is the foundation of your success. He was like stone, sand and cement in the foundation of the house. One less, no strong foundation. Houses can not be built on fragile foundations. Successful, too. Can only be achieved if a strong foundation.

Habit Forming Productive
Different productive habits with positive habits. Positive habits is not negative, no harm, and fun, but do not produce immediate progress. The success achieved directly by productive habits.

Reading the book was positive. Is productive? No. Writing the book was productive. The result is clearly a book. You might think, reading books of knowledge it produces. So there are results. There are products. You are right. But its products are still in the stages of mental, not physical. So when the new mental stage, can not be said to be productive. Mentally, you can really understand about the sale. Productive? Not yet. So productive when you have to sell something. And it's something that you sell something to buy.

Does this make earning more important than positive? Obviously not. You will be very difficult to be productive, if you are not positive.

Compete.
Productive habits will deliver you to success. But to survive in the success, you must be ready and able to compete. Without this, only an instant success. Successful people are people who love to compete. Excited when there is competition. Accelerated when there are opponents. Remain humble when winning. Rose quickly when defeated. So faith, the implementation imperative, positive habits and productive habits really tested. This is the true test of a success.

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Removing Negativity

Difficult, but must be done. Why? Because if not, the difficulty will be greater. And it certainly makes us increasingly small in the presence of that negativity. Then will come a time when the potential goodness of our dying. So at this time, desperation ensued. We are desperate to actually intend to be negative. When this happens, our differences with the devil too thin as a breath.

Before that happens, scrape the negativity becomes important to do continuously. Then do the appropriate steps with a sufficient dose. So the negativity that bind us as: lazy, delaying, lying, smoking, gambling, liquor, addicted to pornography, drugs, anger, sadness excess, arrogance, corruption, and so will be eroded.


True Intentions
Everything starts from the intent is not it? And any action where the value is there in his intentions. So niatkanlah to continue to erode away negativity. My firm intention to make the formula as follows: True Intention = Desire * Readiness to Learn * Readiness to face any problem.

Firm intention of this formula consists of three things. And is associated with the sign of multiplication, not addition. It means three things must exist. If one does not exist (zero value), because the formula multiplied, then the value of the automatic zero intention as well.

Decision Detail and Clear
Intention must be improved so detailed and clear decisions. Without this, the intention will be floating. Details of this decision are:

· Negativity what will be eroded?

· Will do a drastic change (and change) or gradual (gradual)?

A list of detailed and clear action.

· People-negative people where are we going to leave?

· Negative situation which support the occurrence of negativity ourselves?

· Equipment supporting the negativity which we will dispose of?

· When all those things will be done?

Removing Secondary Enjoyment
Why are we doing negative things until those things become a habit? Because we feel the pleasure. That was a secondary pleasure. In the primary we know it is wrong and negative. But the move also give pleasure. Well, the sheer pleasure of it is we do. Then realize that the pleasure was only secondary in nature. That is, there are primary enjoyment. Smoking was delicious. If the intention has been determined to quit smoking, start not want the secondary pleasure. Want to quit smoking pleasure primary. Feel the pleasure when you succeed do not be tempted to smoke. Wuah, once you know ... it's delicious pleasure that comes from a sense of power over yourself.

Doing something positive
Not doing negative things is not enough. Usually not durable. Then you need to do positive things. To replace the void left by the negative things. Some time ago, I watched too much TV. To overcome it, I do the steps. I firmly intend. I made the decision detailed and clear. I hate the secondary pleasure. And I replace the time watching TV to do positive things. Main bike. Reading. Write a book. Play with children. And so on.

It deals with the nerves in our brains. A termination of the relationship between the nerve cells will be permanent if the new relationship formed. The affair will actually end, when the affair was ended, and built a healthy and loving relationship with your partner (husband / wife) we are legitimate. When only decide the affair without building a healthy and loving relationship, it will form another relationship again affair. Was the affair a long time or with new ones.

Do things Productive
This step is important for the changes to our good and consistent. Earning a positive difference. Earning positive definite. Positive but not necessarily productive. Every morning I was among the kids to school. That's positive. But not productive. Make a note on facebook positive. Was productive? Definitely. So this important principle to a five. Progress comes from productive activities.

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Trying and Allow Ease

Usually we feel motivated when there is a challenge to do something new. When the boss in the office gives you a challenging new task, you feel moved to seek ideas and solutions to resolve. But when you find the bottlenecks often arise pessimism and motivation tends to fall.

Surely we've all experienced the ups and downs of motivation. When the spirit is present, it seems whatever we can do. But often we can not escape the negative emotions when confronted with mental problems that make us go down.

We want to do is not try very hard to stay motivated. The first reason, quite simply, because it is hard to do. Secondly, we want to understand what really makes us go down and show the mental attitude to not dissolve into it.

Changing Attitudes

Our lives are full of dynamism. We work, have families, and friends. Our emotions in everyday life may go up and down, so does the motivation. Living with a motivation that does not mean always have to think positive every time. There are times when we want to allow ourselves to be "unmotivated" and paused as he realized what really makes our motivation down.

Perhaps what I write here is somewhat different with the common view about motivation. I personally believe that the effort to stay motivated only make yourself tired. Stop trying and allow yourself to receive. In the reception you realize again that's just what your goals and determine what the best attitude you show.

Set the Rhythm

In the dynamics of life that you want to do is set the rhythm so you can accept success, failure, ease and difficulty as is without any assessment. In everyday practice, you can set the rhythm to manage working time, rest and play. Allow yourself to forget activity routine and doing something you really like. This will make your body relaxed and motivated to work.

Set also allow your emotions to positive and negative feelings in your life together. Just like you let the day and night turns. There is no one better than others. Both are part of your life. When negative emotions are present, allow and accept it as part of your life. Thus you take control of your life and you can easily let go of negative emotions is to go.

In conclusion, to keep motivation alive begins by accepting the dynamics of what is and determine the best manner that brings benefits to the achievement of your goals. No need to try hard, just set the rhythm and flexible to all possibilities.

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Your focus on "Let Go"

When we try to do something with the intention that focused (focused intent), that happens we use the conscious mind (left brain). This limits us to access the unconscious mind (right brain) that has the ability processing billions of times faster than the conscious.

In many self-help books often explained how we make the intent (intent) to achieve what we want. During this time many people assume intent as "something That We Want to Happen". Therefore, our conscious mind trying to find the positive intent and happy.

Often we are taught how to make the intent of its 3P: Positive, Precise, Present. So intent are defined early and endeavored to happen because we believe such a scenario the best. Intent of this kind can be successful. But usually when unsuccessful, we may feel like a failure and thinks there is a wrong process.

Conscious mind we have limited capabilities. Only capable of processing 50-10% of the realities that happened. Therefore, we define the intent of the conscious mind is limiting (restricting). We tend to focus on what we want. There is the wanting (desire) and expectation (hope), which if not met could lead to disappointment and frustration. Finally, we feel helpless because it failed to achieve what we want.

Defines the intent of the conscious mind to give the impression that we know best, even though there may be more better if we are willing to let go (surrender).

To access the Power of Unconscious Mind, our focus is not on "what we want" but rather to "let go". With let us go away from the expectation of how things should happen. Then we open ourselves to receive a better scenario than the scenario that we choose. Let go allows us to be grateful in receiving what we want and also feel comfortable to accept if we want it not to happen. In this condition we do not feel powerless or fail.

Unconscious mind has the ability of processing billions of times faster than the conscious. Through let go we turn unconscious mind has access to the infinite potentials (potential unlimited) in the universe.

How do we focus on let go, not on what we want?

Suppose you are experiencing financial difficulties. Your focus is not on the intent of the 3P, where you want Rpxxxx money for example. You simply ask, for example: "If my financial situation is different, what I feel?" Make this question as intent. Then Observe (see) what is DIFFERENT - not what is the same - the feeling you. Ask once more, for example: "If my desire to have money does not exist, how it feels?". Notice the feeling different and feeling.

Perhaps you then feel there is relief in the liver. You may see an image block of ice melts. Maybe you heard a voice say "soon you're rich". Anything, that is clear without contrived. Through the heart, feeling as if what you want is already happening now. Look and feel all of these then "LET GO".

A friend of this practice and several hours later he obtained the money of several million. Far beyond the "wildest imagination", because its expectation already let go. Another friend who has been cured of chronic diseases. Just simply by asking and let go.

The bottom line: our focus is not on what we want, but the let go. Allow our unconscious mind with its multi-processor work without fear or and plagued by doubts.

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Being Productive

You can only spend so many hours without producing anything. Sounds familiar? There are several principles that should you consider in time management so you can work effectively:

Plan
There's a saying that says "If you fail to plan, you plan to fail". If you live your day without any idea of ​​what to do and how to do it, you'll spend most of your time asking "What should I do now?". The plan provides a map of what lies before you that day. Allocate some time to plan so you can classify the tasks according to priorities and time and workmanship.

Have a plan in the morning or the day before. You can start from small notes only, or even put them in the head just to give signals to the brain about what you must accomplish that day.

Use a smart strategy in preparing the plan. When do you usually feel your energy is high, both mentally and physically? For me usually the time between the hours of 10:00 to 12:00 is when I'm "on fire". When I use to start or complete tasks with high priority. The remaining time I usually use to complete the jobs with lower priority.

The plan is not rigid and are always open to adjustment at any time. Do not forget to insert a time for rest. In principle, you do for your own self-management. Learning to manage time is a great exercise for self-discipline.

Focus
Often the work we allow ourselves to be soluble in several jobs at once, the term multi-tasking. Maybe you try to please your boss to say yes all the demands, but you realize you actually just burdening yourself with stress and not necessarily what you will work good quality.

Doing two things at once instead of just dividing your attention but also makes you less focused and consequently take longer to finish the job. The focus of the work makes us more productive and reduce the burden of stress. Create a scale of priorities when you have to finish some work in the same period.

Avoid Interruptions
Two things in the world of work today is a frequent source of interruption are: telephone and email. Of course, this interruption can not be avoided but use your skills in self-management to handle it:

    Answer calls from people who are interested only when you're focused on work. If you have had to answer, keep time to a minimum. You can call back when you're rather free.
    Check your email at times only. Okay, this is of course very heavy. You can try. If it is not possible, try not to answer all emails every time it comes. Answer the email associated with your current job and avoid multi-tasking.

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Avoiding Laziness

In some cases, you will probably lose the moment to develop when you say "no" to an opportunity - and you're lazy to act as a negative shadow on the things that burden the front.

I want to give some tips to overcome laziness. These tips can you practice in the workplace or the family environment:

Replace "When completion" with "I'm Starting Now"

If you are faced with a large task or project, you should not think about the complexity of the task and imagine when it can be resolved. Instead, focus on positive thoughts by dividing large tasks into parts that are smaller and solve them one by one.

Tell every time you work: "I'm starting now."
This perspective will keep you from feeling overwhelmed, stress, and difficulties. You make a simple task in front of you with a positive act. You just focus on one thing at a time, not many things at the same time.

Replace "I must" with "I Want"

Thinking that you have to do something it will automatically invite you feel overwhelmed and become lazy to do it. You will find a thousand reasons to avoid the task.

One tip that you can use is to replace "I have to do it" with "I want to do it". How to think like this will eliminate the mental blocks to accept that you do not have to do work that you do not want to.

You want to do the job because you really want to do it, not because of coercion of others. You always have a choice in life. Of course, your choice should be made aware of and do not harm others. The point is that no one else in this world that forces you to do anything that you do not want to do.

Your Not Perfect Man

Thinking that you must complete the work as perfect as possible will take you in a depressed mental state. As a result you may be lazy started. You have to accept that you can do wrong and not all have to be perfect.

In the context of work, you have the opportunity to make improvements over time. You can always negotiate with your boss to ask for additional time with good reason. Starting the work of a small and simple things, then increase with time. Thinking that the work should be completed perfectly will make you look at the work of the great and complicated.

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Self Motivation To Achieve Success

Being successful is the dream of everyone and of course it takes a strong motivation to overcome challenges to achieve what you want. This motivation must be grown from within ourselves. You could read hundreds of books or go to dozens of seminars to get an injection of motivation,
but what often happens is an increase in emotional moment for change. Perhaps this last one or two weeks and after that you feel everything back into mediocrity like the old conditions.


Furthermore, how do you stay motivated to work to achieve the desired objectives? The bottom line motivation is the art of communicating with yourself. This communication involves the feeling that you felt through the emotions that arise.

So what's the difference between feelings and emotions?

Examples such as this, If you feel guilty about the emotions that arise can fear being judged, to escape, and so on. If you feel happy, emotion can be a joy, joy, desire to share, etc.. Emotions arise as a result of the feelings that occur within ourselves.

So it really easy for life to be motivated. The key is to feel happy these things and imagine the success that you will achieve later. You will be motivated to work.

There are a few tips that I want to give to get you motivated anytime and anywhere:

Be Responsible
You need someone who will remind you to stay on purpose. He was assigned to provide support and become a partner brainstorm for ideas and the ideas you have. From here you will feel the responsibility to provide the best for him. The process of achieving goals becomes easier with the presence of someone who is a mirror of yourself.


Always Consistent
Ease arises from habit. Motivation is the same. It requires discipline, so you get used to life with motivation. There is a great expression that says, "Something that you repeat every day for 21 days will become a habit". I encourage you to practice it. Start with simple things like smiling in front of a mirror, say "Yes" before work, and more.


Focus on process, not a destination
It is very important. Often you down mentally when faced with the difficulty of achieving the goal. Focus on the process. Each process takes time. Whether fast, slow either. Your goal is clear, but the journey to get there can be winding and up and down. With a focus on the process you avoid the mental burden because now you have control over the process itself, rather than controlled by the target to achieve the goal.


Surround yourself with people who are visionary equal
If you want to lose weight, make sure you are with friends who have similar goals. If you want to build a business, friends with people who have been in the business world or those who want to start a business. You can gain energy and motivation from them. It would be very easy to be motivated when you are getting support. What you perceive as obstacles when working alone can be resolved with the help and support of friends that same vision.

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"Seize" sympathy and respect

The best way to realize the difference is close to mingle with all different things. Associating with people who have different cultures, different lifestyles, perspectives and different understandings. But you must remember, when you hang out near them and do not judge them.

Here is how to "win" sympathy and respect people.


1. Respect
How to get others to like you than by honoring them as is. What does it mean to respect them? Respecting them means not measure them by category or size alone. Respect others, even if he does not have a car, education is not as high as you, speaking not as smooth and beautiful as you are and not as pretty or handsome as you. In principle, one that means because of his dignity, his wisdom, because of his humility. All you need to remember, says Luce Irigaray in her book I Love to You, is that when you say you respect other people, you say you are irreducible to me just as I am to you. People will respect you because they attitude.

2. Be interested in Them
Feel attracted to someone else, even if in fact you already know a lot of things. When people talk, do not be indifferent. Show an interest in it through the bright eyes, smile, nod and occasionally asked, "Oh, yes, what's the story?" At that time, become a good listener, though probably not too important topic, or a broken logic. That person certainly would not say you were stupid because it could only smile and replied with one or two words. He will respect you because you make him feel heard, because humility you to notice it.

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